We can't always control what our young people are exposed to but we can set them up to navigate challenges and come out stronger and wiser.
Supporting young people through mentoring
Mentoring offers powerful guidance for supporting teenagers through challenging and traumatic life experiences. When a young person is hurting, just being a steady, compassionate presence can make a real difference.
Create space for open, non-judgemental conversations
Let them know it’s okay to talk - or not talk - at their own pace. Be consistent and supportive - keep trying, stay connected. And reconnect even if initial attempts aren’t successful. Active listening is key. Really hear what they are saying and practice being ok to sit in silence.
Acknowledge and validate their emotions
Challenging life events and trauma can bring out a wide range of feelings. For that young person they are real and none of them are wrong. Let young people know their emotions are valid and normal. Comments like “I can see how hard this is for you” or “It makes sense that you’d feel that way” can be incredibly grounding. Avoid comments like "that’s life" or "try not to think about it" - even well-meant reassurance can feel dismissive. Equally, don't escalate the 'drama'. Calm validation and support is the key.
Support healthy ways to cope
Explore what self-care means for them - not what you think it should look like. Maybe it’s journaling, going for a walk, drawing, listening to music, or spending time with friends. The aim isn’t to avoid their feelings but to give them healthy ways to sit with and process what they’re going through.
Know when to seek professional help
If a young person seems stuck or overwhelmed for an extended period, they may need more support than a mentor or caring adult can offer. Never hesitate to reach out for professional help when it’s needed - it’s one of the most supportive things you can do.
